#14 LET'S TALK ABOUT IT: I’m in a relationship but I’m questioning my sexuality. How do I explore it while staying with my partner?

Say it with me: relationships have nothing to do with sexuality

I'm sure this is on a lot of people's minds. Partly because many of us have been conditioned to believe that sexuality stops when we enter a relationship. But that's simply NOT true.

People think that the only 'legitimate' way to explore one's sexuality while being in a relationship is through cheating. Fortunately, there are tons of other ways one can explore their sexuality, especially if they are in a monogamous Relationship.

Join a queer group, meet like minded people, talk to a trusting friend. Simmer in the endless versions of YOU. Think about how you would express yourself - what would your hair, clothes and make up look like, what would your pronouns be? Most importantly, give yourself permission to fantasize, watch porn and read erotica.

Bottom line is, our sexuality does not stop for anyone or anything. Our pronouns, gender expression, gender identity and even our sexual orientation are constantly evolving, and it is not dependent on one's partner or relationship status. It is completely normal and nothing to feel ashamed or guilty about.

I have a detailed post here that you can check out as well!